Domestic abuse in children
October is historically domestic abuse awareness month. A lot of people have commented on the issues raised saying I have really opened their eyes.
Today we discuss the issue of domestic abuse in children. In this video from Vid Chronicles, you can see a fictional story of what happens when a parent abuses his wife and kids. As a self defence instructor, I see and hear such stories all the time.
However, the account below comes from (2.)
Coronavirus (COVID-19), lockdown and domestic abuse- NSPCC
We know, for some children and families, home might not be a safe place and staying there will be extremely challenging. Some may already be experiencing domestic abuse or worried an adult’s behaviour is changing and escalating.
If you and your family are in immediate danger call 999. If you’re unable to talk press 55 after dialing. It is okay to leave your home during lockdown if you’re experiencing abuse. The police can also remove the person harming you from your home.
What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship. It can seriously harm children and young people and witnessing domestic abuse is child abuse. It’s important to remember domestic abuse:
- can happen inside and outside the home
- can happen over the phone, on the internet and on social networking sites
- can happen in any relationship and can continue even after the relationship has ended
- both men and women can be abused or abusers.
Types of domestic abuse
Domestic abuse can be emotional, physical, sexual, financial or psychological, such as:
- kicking, hitting, punching or cutting
- rape (including in a relationship)
- controlling someone’s finances by withholding money or stopping someone earning
- controlling behaviour, like telling someone where they can go and what they can wear
- not letting someone leave the house
- reading emails, text messages or letters
- threatening to kill someone or harm them
- threatening to another family member or pet.
Signs of domestic abuse
It can be difficult to tell if domestic abuse is happening and those carrying out the abuse can act very different when other people are around. Children and young people might also feel frightened and confused, keeping the abuse to themselves.
Signs that a child has witnessed domestic abuse can include:
- aggression or bullying
- anti-social behaviour, like vandalism
- anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts
- attention seeking
- bed-wetting, nightmares or insomnia
- constant or regular sickness, like colds, headaches and mouth ulcers
- drug or alcohol use
- eating disorders
- problems in school or trouble learning
- tantrums
- withdrawal.
Effects of domestic abuse
Living in a home where domestic abuse happens can have a serious impact on a child or young person’s mental and physical wellbeing, as well as their behaviour. And this can last into adulthood.
What’s important is to make sure the abuse stops and that children have a safe and stable environment to grow up in.
Our services can support children and young people who have experienced domestic abuse to help them move on and receive the care they need.
Children are now recognised as victims of domestic abuse
Being exposed to domestic abuse has serious consequences for children and young people; and it can affect how they feel, think and behave in harmful ways.
Thanks to our campaign alongside other children’s charities and women’s organisations and the backing we received from supporters around the UK — government agreed to recognise children as victims. The Domestic Abuse Act should mean that they can access the protection and support they need to recover.
“I am delighted that the Domestic Abuse Bill has been passed by the House of Commons [It] will have a profound and positive impact on millions of victims, survivors and children across the country.”
Victoria Atkins, Minister for Safeguarding
If a child reveals abuse
If a child talks to you about domestic abuse it’s important to:
- listen carefully to what they’re saying
- let them know they’ve done the right thing by telling you
- tell them it’s not their fault
- say you’ll take them seriously
- don’t confront the alleged abuser
- explain what you’ll do next
- report what the child has told you as soon as possible.
For children and young people
Our Domestic Abuse, Recovering Together (DART™) is a therapeutic service for mothers and children who have experienced domestic abuse.
Find out more about all our services for children, including how to get in touch with ones in your area.
The Hide Out, created by Women’s Aid, is a space to help children and young people understand abuse. It also helps them learn how to take positive action.
How Childline can help
We understand how difficult it is for children to talk about domestic abuse. Whether it’s happening now or happened in the past, Childline can be contacted 24/7. Calls to 0800 1111 are free and confidential. Children can also contact Childline online.
Childline has information and advice for children and young people about domestic abuse, including why it happens and what they can do.
Previous blogs on domestic abuse
What you can do
- As of today, you ensure your children learn a martial art. Anyone who is reasonably proficient in semi or full-contact martial art is a very dangerous person to mess with. Bear in mind someone who knows a martial art will move heaven and earth to avoid a fight or having to use it. Look at bodyguards when a situation arises. They get their client out of there asap.
- Tell everybody you know of the international symbol saying “I am in danger please help me.”
- Make sure everyone you know is told that if they are in immediate danger to dial 999 and dial 55 if they can’t talk.
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What other resources are there?
If you are in the UK and are in immediate danger then dial 999 on a mobile and press 55 and keep quiet. Help is on it’s way. When the police arrive show them the above symbol. Remember there are people out there who care for you.
24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247
Men’s Advice Line: 0808 801 0327 (Mon/Weds: 09.00–20.00, Tues/Thurs Fri: 09.00–17.00)
NAPAC (National Association for People Abused in Childhood) Helpline: 0808 801 0331 (Mon/Weds/Fri: 10.00–16.00, Tues/Thurs: 14.00–21.00)
Beyond the Streets
Beyond the Streets provides a confidential call back service for women who are involved in prostitution and want to explore possible alternatives.
Telephone: 0800 133 7870 (call back service)
Email: support@beyondthestreets.org.uk
Galop
Galop runs a specialist helpline for LGBT+ people who have experienced hate crime, domestic abuse or sexual violence.
Telephone: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday 10am-5pm, Wednesday-Thursday 10am-8pm)
Email: advice@galop.org.uk
Karma Nirvana
Karma Nirvana support victims of so called ‘honour-based’ abuse and forced marriage. They operate a national helpline to support victims and professionals.
Telephone: 0800 599 9247 (Monday-Friday 9am-5pm)
Email: info@karmanirvana.org.uk
Male Survivors Alliance
The Male Survivors Alliance provides help and information to male victims/survivors or sexual abuse, rape and sexual exploitation.
The National Male Survivors helpline is 0808 800 5005.
The helpline is available Mon-Weds 9am-5pm, Thurs 8am-8pm, Fri 9am-5pm, Sat 10am-2pm.There is also a text service and online chat function available via Safeline here- https://www.safeline.org.uk/contact-us/
ManKind Initiative
Mankind offer support to male victims of domestic abuse. Their helpline provides both emotional support and practical information.
Telephone: 01823 334 244 (Monday-Friday 10am-4pm).
NAPAC (National Association for People Abused in Childhood)
NAPAC offers support to adult survivors of all types of childhood abuse, including physical, sexual, emotional abuse or neglect. They offer a range of resources for survivors, as well as those who care for and work with them.
Telephone: 0808 801 0331 (Monday-Thursday 10am-9pm and Friday 10am–6pm)
Email: support@napac.org.uk
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge)
Refuge’s National Domestic Abuse Helpline provides free, confidential support 24 hours a day to victims of domestic abuse and those who are worried about friends or loved ones.
Telephone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day)
Email (via website): https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/Contact-us
NSPCC / Childline
The NSPCC helpline is staffed by trained professionals who can provide expert advice and support. If you are concerned about a child, if you’re a parent or carer looking for advice, or if you’re a professional in need of information and guidance.
Whatever your worry — call the NSPCC on 0808 800 5000, email, or submit the online form . They also have advice about spotting the signs of abuse. You can call Monday to Friday 8am — 10pm or 9am — 6pm at the weekends. It’s free and you don’t have to say who you are.
Website- https://www.nspcc.org.uk/
Childline offers free, confidential advice and support whatever your worry, whenever you need help. Counsellors are available to talk to by calling 0800 1111 or via 121 chat between 7.30am and 3.30am every day.
Website- https://www.childline.org.uk/
Rape Crisis England and Wales
Rape Crisis Centres provide specialist support and services to women and girls who have experienced sexual violence. The Rape Crisis National Helpline offers free, confidential emotional support and information.
Telephone: 0808 802 9999 (every day between 12–2.30pm and 7–9.30pm)
Rape Crisis Live Chat: Live Chat is a free, text-based support service. For more information please go to https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-help/want-to-talk/
Respect
Respect is a domestic abuse organisation which runs a confidential helpline for men and women who are harming their partners and families, as well as a confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse and those supporting them.
Respect Phoneline:
Telephone: 0808 802 4040 (Monday-Friday 9am-8pm)
Email: info@respectphoneline.org.uk
Men’s Advice Line:
Telephone: 0808 8010 327 (Monday-Friday 9am-8pm)
Email: info@mensadviceline.org.uk
Revenge Porn Helpline
The helpline is a UK service supporting adults (aged 18+) who are experiencing intimate image abuse, also known as, revenge porn.
Due to concerns around the Coronavirus outbreak, the Helpline will be operating an email only service for the time being, therefore voicemail messages may not be responded to immediately.
Please contact by email on help@revengepornhelpline.org.uk open Monday to Friday from 10am to 4pm.
Safeline
Safeline’s National Male Survivor Helpline is a dedicated service for men and boys in England and Wales affected by rape or sexual abuse and those that support them such as friends and family.
Telephone: 0808 800 5005 (Monday, Wednesday and Friday 9am-5pm, Tuesday and Thursday 8am-8pm and Saturday 10am-2pm)
Email (via website): https://www.safeline.org.uk/contact-us/
Southall Black Sisters
Southall Black Sisters specialise in domestic and gender related violence, including forced marriage and ‘honour-based’ abuse. They provide specialist advice, information, casework, advocacy, counselling and self-help support services in several languages.
Telephone: 0208 571 9595 (Monday to Friday from 9–5pm)
Email (via website): https://southallblacksisters.org.uk/contact-us/
Stay Safe East
Stay Safe East provides specialist and holistic advocacy and support services to disabled people who are victims and survivors of domestic or sexual violence.
Telephone: 0208 519 7241
Email: enquiries@staysafe-east.org.uk
National Male Support Service — SurvivorsUK
SurvivorsUK support men, boys, trans and nonbinary survivors of sexual violence. They offer one to one counselling, ISVA services, and an online helpline.
Website: www.survivorsuk.org (Monday-Sunday 12pm-8pm)
Email: info@survivorsuk.org
Suzy Lamplugh Trust
Suzy Lamplugh Trust run the National Stalking Helpline, which gives practical information, support, and advice to victims of stalking, their friends, family, and professionals working with victims.
Telephone: 0808 802 0300 (9:30am-4pm Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday; 1pm-4pm Wednesday)
Email (via website): https://www.suzylamplugh.org/forms/national-stalking-helpline-enquiry-form
The Survivors Trust
The Survivors Trust provides confidential information, advice and support for people who have experienced rape and sexual violence.
Telephone: 0808 801 0818 (Monday-Friday: 10am-8:30pm, Saturday from 10am-12:30pm, 1:30pm-4:30pm and 6pm-8:30pm and Sunday from 1:30pm-4:30pm and 6pm-8:30pm)
Email: info@thesurvivorstrust.org
www.thesurvivorstrust.org
Women’s Aid
Women’s Aid provides support for women who are experiencing or have experienced physical, mental, sexual or domestic violence or abuse.
Live Web Chat: https://chat.womensaid.org.uk/ (Monday to Friday 10am-4pm, Saturday and Sunday 10am-12pm)
Email: helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Bawso (Wales)
Bawso is an all Wales voluntary organisation providing specialist services to black and minority ethnic (BME) women and children made homeless through domestic abuse. Bawso’s work extends to providing support to BME women confronted with forced marriage, FGM and so called ‘honour-based’ abuse.
Telephone: 0800 7318147 (24hr)
Email: info@bawso.org.uk
Dyn Wales Helpline
The Safer Wales Dyn Helpline provides free confidential support to men who experience domestic abuse in Wales.
Telephone: 0808 801 0321 (Monday and Tuesday 10–4pm, Wednesday 10–1pm)
Email: support@dynwales.org
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My name is Bond, Dr. James Bond, I am a health and fitness expert and a Sheffield Star fitness columnist. I have also been featured in the Daily Mail. . I work with people who want to improve their quality of life- particularly those who want to lose weight. What makes my service different is that I am the only personal fitness trainer in the North of England who is a qualified medical doctor. Therefore I can take on the general public and super high risk cases that other fitness professionals will not dare like this lady, the case of Deborah Fox..
Bibliography
- Abusive Husband Beats Wife And Kids, He Learns His Lesson.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9VMWBP8UIcc
- Coronavirus (COVID-19), lockdown and domestic abuse https://www.nspcc.org.uk/what-is-child-abuse/types-of-abuse/domestic-abuse/
Date checked Saturday 23rd October 2021
