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Please learn these distress signals for victims of domestic abuse.

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Please watch this video before going any further. I cannot begin to tell you how brilliant this 911 operator was. I have no words. She saved this woman’s life.

I would warmly welcome your comments on what I have written. Some have found my comments highly offensive. Please read below about the importance of distress signals especially if someone asks you to contact Uncle Stan or shows you the hand signal below.

I am a personal trainer. I teach self defence and I have a lot of victims of domestic abuse on my books- both male and female.

Always learn the two signs for help you never know when you may save a life.

Firstly the call for Uncle Stan. If someone asks you to call Uncle Stan it means they are in danger. STAN means Send The Authorities Now. I am in the process of writing to all UK police forces to tell them if they receive a call asking for Uncle Stan it means someone is in danger.

Secondly. learn the international distress symbol. Make eye contact with someone. Show them the palm of your hand. Put your thumb in the palm of your hand and close your fingers. That is a sign that someone is in danger. If you see that then please call the police and tell them that this person is in danger.

My advice is to never move in with a partner unless four criteria are met.

1. You have a legally binding prenuptial contract drawn up by a lawyer which is reviewed annually.

2. You are highly skilled in a full-contact martial art.

3. You have your own source of income wholly independent from your partner.