This beautiful comment was made on BBC Question Time on Thursday 20th June 2019. (1)
It sent shockwaves through the nation and I agree with this woman 100%. I only wish I could have met this lady- I was almost moved to tears watching this.
Let’s see what we can do about it.
Every father needs to learn from Terminator 2
It’s no secret that the number one reason why kids get into trouble is lack of parental attention. Look at the words of Sarah Connor.
“Watching John with the machine, it was suddenly so clear, the terminator would never stop, it would never leave him, it would never hurt him, never shout at him or get drunk and hit him or say it was too busy to spend time with him. It would always be there and it would die to protect him. Of all the would-be fathers who came and went over the years, this thing, this machine, was the only one that measured up. In an insane world, it was the sanest choice.” (The resistance sent a terminator back in time to protect John Connor.) (2)
This is what every father should be like.
Paul Watson uncovers some very uncomfortable truths
Please watch this video from Paul Watson (3.)
I agree with every word Paul Watson says in this video.
Some practical things- James Bond personal trainer
Stick to public places, the more public a place the less likely something is to happen. Try to ensure you stay in places covered by CCTV.
Walk opposing the traffic
Make sure you always walk opposing the traffic. That way you can see a motorcycle or moped coming towards you in case they want to rob you.
Wear a head torch at night.
Always wear a lit headtorch at night. Although you may feel silly any criminal on seeing you will subconsciously think that they are going to be seen and trust me it’s like having a force field around you. People move away from you very quickly.
Carry a whistle.
Every member of the public should carry a whistle and heaven forbid if anything happens you blow hard. It will attract attention and the last thing any criminal wants is to be seen and possibly identified.
Carry an umbrella
Kids are in a catch 22. If you carry a knife you can be arrested and convicted simply for carrying one- depending on where in the world you are.
If you don’t carry one, you lose your street credibility and you are worried about what happens if you are attacked with a knife?
The answer? Carry a 3 foot umbrella! A 3 foot umbrella is legal. Secondly if someone threatens you with a knife use it as parrying distance to get space between you and the knifer and blow that whistle hard.
The above are not 100% guaranteed but they give you a better chance.
The ultimate weapon to stop your kids getting into crime.
Any teacher will tell you it’s the parents who you don’t need to see who come to parents evenings. It’s the parents who you do need to see who never come.
(A doctor will tell you that it’s the same for women who come for screenings for breast and cervical cancer. The low risk women are the best attenders.)
The parents who come are super motivated parents who take an active interest in their kids. This is one reason why kids from South East Asian backgrounds do so well at school- their parents take an interest.
The more of an interest you take in your kids the less likely they will turn to crime.
During my intercalated research year as a medical student I interviewed several prison governors and criminal psychologists who told me that if every case of a hardened criminal they would always be from a broken home. What does that tell you?
If you don’t talk to your kids about crime the criminals will.
Social media is never too busy to deal with kids. Your kids will gain the attention of social media anytime they want it.
However do you know who the best in the world are at getting attention from kids? Criminals- they go to enormous lengths to get their attention and guess what- they succeed. They prey on the vulnerable kids.
How well do you know your kids?
When I was in India one of my relatives wanted to arrange a marriage for me. I asked this person Who was my best friend? He couldn’t answer. What was my favourite meal? He said burger and chips. (I am a vegetarian.) He asked me which football team I supported. He said Manchester United. (I support Liverpool.) I asked him 30 basic questions and he couldn’t answer one of them.
I then said “You hardly know me. How on earth can you arrange a marriage for me?”
How well do you know your kids? Who are their friends? What is their favourite subject at school? What websites do they look at? What are their career intentions? What is their favourite meal? Have you spoken to them about sex? Have you spoken to them about crime? The list is endless.
If I were you I’d google The Ungame and once a week play that game with your kids. The Ungame is a non-competitive game and can be a great ice-breaker or a serious exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas. Ages 5-Adult, 2–6 Players.
It includes a set of general question and comment cards. Separate kid, teen, and family
You’ll be amazed at how much you’ll learn about your kids and family- you’ll be amazed at how little you know.
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London’s mayor blames a cut in the police budget- that is true. However you don’t cut costs of a public service by cutting the budget-you make it better.
Let me give you two examples. When I was a kid some of our friends wanted to steal some stuff from the local sweetshop. I didn’t want to have any part of it but they threatened to beat me up if I didn’t keep watch. Luckily a police offer walked past and went into the shop. No crime took place. These lads bought their sweets and went home.
If a crime had taken place, they’d have to call in the parents, interview the kids, charge them, put them through the courts, imprison them etc- at inordinate public expense.
The moral of the story- put more police officers on the streets.
If you are driving on the motorway and you see a police car if you have any sense you’ll slow down to below the speed limit.
When I worked in hospital a big problem was bed blocking. It’s easy to resolve. If the doctor who sees the patient on admission writes in the notes “this patient cannot cope at home and needs full social assessment.” Social assessment would start on day one and would be arranged by the time the patient was due for discharge.
If not people wouldn’t notice until the day of discharge. The patient would go home, couldn’t cope, come back into hospital and would then spend weeks, sometimes months in hospital at a cost of some £300 per day.
No politician would dare mention this.
Respect for parents.
Unless you do this your kids will have no respect for you. For example if you see the episode of the Simpsons where Homer steals a free satellite TV subscription Bart ends up saying “I can’t wait to be an adult so I can break all the rules.” Marge makes a point that Bart was losing respect for his father.
Respect for the law.
A lot of people are losing respect for the law because of politically correct policing. I was appalled to see how Police officer Katie Barratt was dismissed simply for saying Paki.
There was a spate of gang violence in my city. I wrote to my councillors to tell them how they deal with in India. They sent two police officers to arrest me. The police knocked at my door.I went round the back. I said “Can I help you?” They said “We have a warrant for the arrest of Mr. James Bond for racially motivated communication.” I said “That’s me.”
They got a shock to see I am an ethnic minority!
Instead of dealing with the problem the law sent the police round to arrest the guy who proposed a solution.
Is it any wonder that people are losing respect for the law?
In Defence of parents who have no time for their families
A lot of parents don’t have time to be there for their kids.
Minimum wage will is £7.83 per hour for those over 25.
Let’s assume you work for 40 hours per week
That equates to £313.20 per week.
Or £16286.40 per year.
You only pay tax at a rate of 20% for anything over the single person’s allowance.
The single person’s allowance will be £11,850 as of April 2018.
That works out at £227.88 per week.
In other words, you will pay 20% on anything above £227.80.
Assuming you are on minimum wage of £7.83 per hour.
That means you pay 20% on (£313.20-£227.80.)
20% of ££85.40= £17.08 in tax.
Then there is national insurance.
You only pay 12% on anything earned above the primary threshold.
The primary threshold is £157 per week.
Someone on minimum wage, in terms of national insurance will pay 12% x (£313.20-£157.00.)
That equates to 12% x £156.20=£18.74
Thus someone on minimum wage takes home very little.
£313.20- (£17.08+£18.74) = £313.20-£38.82=£274.38 per week.
Childcare per child is £45 per child per day.
Assuming you work for 5 days that works out at £225 per week.
Hence a mother who returned to work would take home £274.38-£225= £49,38 per week.
That works out at £1.23 per hour over a 40 hour week.
Hence many don’t go back to work. Or those who do take a 2nd job to make ends meet to pay the bills.
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