The plight of bisexual women
I refer to my previous posting (1)
My name is Bond, Dr. James Bond, I am a health and fitness expert and I have also been featured in the Daily Mail. I work with people who want to improve their quality of life- particularly those who want to lose weight. What makes my service different is that I am the only personal fitness trainer in the North of England who is a qualified medical doctor. Therefore I can take on the general public and super high-risk cases that other fitness professionals will not dare.
When I was a medical student I spent a lot of time in psychiatry. In those days, a lot of women took overdoses after being dumped by their boyfriends. Sadly it’s a common occurrence. As a medical student, you get to spend more time with the patient than the doctors do very often resulting in you knowing more about them than their doctors do!
In many cases, these women would confide and tell me that they were bisexual and it was that which resulted in the ending of the relationship. However, I never documented it in the medical notes. At most I kept a tally count. When one case occurs you think it’s a one-off. When it occurs on a near enough daily basis you notice a pattern and it can’t be due to chance.
In the 1998/9 academic year, I did a research-based year and I learned research methods. Then certain patterns emerged. It wasn’t that difficult to find bisexual women and I interviewed lots of them.
In 2002 I was suspended from my junior doctor’s post. If you read my website http://www.jamesbondhealthandfitness.co.uk you will see that I was the victim of a gross injustice. I’ll detail more of that later. So I decided to research this super taboo subject. I knew that something like 10% of all women were bi-curious or bisexual.
I have previously stated some case studies on this.
Patterns started emerging.
Then came along, a big invention-the internet- it became very easy to find such women, the same patters kept emerging, time and
Let me describe bisexuality as you define a medical condition (not that it is one!)
Definition
A person who is sexually or emotionally attracted to people of both genders outside their own family.
Classification.
It ranges from simply looking at people of both genders to actually having full-blown sex with people of both genders.
Cause
I personally think that there must be some genes in the human genetic make-up. I suspect there is a group of them.
If the person is female then the more of these genes there are the more likely this woman is to be bisexual.
If the person is male then the more of these genes there are the more likely this man will be one of those Penny talks about elsewhere in this book.
Process
It could be genetic or it could be environmental or both. However, if you have a bisexual son or daughter whatever you do-don’t try to get them to give it up.
How it portrays
This is covered elsewhere
Complications
Near enough every aspect of your life is affected.
Socially — you are less likely to have friends.
Psychologically you are so lonely you are more likely to develop problems of self-esteem.
Financially. The prejudice bisexual people face, I predicted in those days they’d have problems finding work if the employer ever found out and promotion would be hindered.
Read on-you’ll see that my research will help hundreds of millions of very lonely women and men.
Old joke
There is the old joke why is it so difficult to find a single man who is really handsome, kind, caring sensitive, reliable, got a great job, a great body, who dresses well, treats women with dignity and respect?
Such perfect men are never single.
They already have boyfriends.
That is not necessarily true.
According to (2) — it’s estimated that 15% of women are bisexual.
Every woman dreams of a man with the above attributes. Bisexual girls have a few more desires. They have five cravings and desires Very few achieve such desires.
The first is that like most women- they want to look gorgeous. All achieve that!
The second is that they want to go out places where we can be free where we can express themselves.
The third is that they all want a partner who accepts them for being bisexual. Believe it or not, it’s as hard as dissolving a diamond in water. I’ve lost count of the number of guys who have left my bisexual female friends within hours of them getting together.
The fourth one is that every bisexual girl dreams of a threesome with a man and another woman. I know what every man is going to say. They’ll say that no man would ever turn it down.
Every bi girl knows different!
Not so! You may have seen porn movies where this happens and you think it’s every man’s dream. Well, it may be a dream but if you go to any swingers club and ask the proprietor what happens when two women offer a guy a threesome. I’ll tell you- he runs like the wind. Now I am a personal fitness trainer and I’ve even seen really fat men run like Usain Bolt when offered a threesome with two girls. Ask any bisexual girl at a swingers club and she’ll tell you the same thing.
Sad as it may sound, very few bisexual women achieve any of these desires.
Bisexual women fall in four categories.
Eternally single
There are some bisexual women who never find their knight in shining armour; in fact, they never find anyone. They spend their whole lives alone.
Thankfully these people are very small in number.
You have no idea how lonely bisexual women are. They have very few friends because they are afraid of what their friends will say- if they “come out.” They get grief from the straight community, lesbians and gays. Some of them have no partner because they are too embarrassed. Any attempt for their friends to play matchmaker will fail because they are too embarrassed. Lots of bi girls keep it to themselves and if you are from certain cultures it’s a lot worse.
Partner has no idea (PNI).
These seem to be the majority. The girl has a regular boyfriend or a husband (for the purposes of this article I’ll use the words male partner -MP). However the MP has no idea that she likes girls for the reasons discussed previously.
If you go to any swingers club you’ll find lots of bisexual women there without the knowledge of their partners. You’ll find that all they want to do is have sex with a woman without her PNI knowing. It’s also quite common for bisexual women to get jobs that involve travelling and staying overnight in other places because it may be the only opportunity to have sex with a woman who they will take with them.
I’ve seen many horror stories on this.
He knows but doesn’t want to know- non participating male partner (NPMP).
That is self-explanatory-he knows but doesn’t want to know.
I know some such girls who are victims of domestic violence but put up with it only because of children or they are afraid of being alone. Domestic violence is a very complex issue and is beyond the scope of this article.
He knows and he joins in. (PMP= participating male partner).
These are very rare. Bisexual women will tell you it’s virtually impossible. Every bisexual woman will tell you that the other half does a runner when offered a 3-some with two girls.
In my experience, there are only two groups of men who have the sexual drive and stamina to take on such girls. Let’s face it nowadays most men can’t hack it in the sack.
I am a firm believer that when you love someone you love all of them and you accept every part of them not just the bits you like.
A bisexual girl will do anything for a PMP.
So do you find such a male partner?
My cousin wrote a book based on my research. You’ll see how easy it is.
Resources
How to find Mr. Right — a guide for bisexual women-Penny Bond (my cousin) https://sellfy.com/p/9RCv/
(1) He caught his girlfriend in bed with a woman- his reaction is not what you’d expect. James Bond 28th July 2019 https://medium.com/@james_4450/he-caught-his-girlfriend-in-bed-with-a-woman-his-reaction-is-not-what-youd-expect-c68b45aebc1b
(2) Why Are So Many Girls Lesbian or Bisexual?
Girls today are three times more likely than boys to be non-heterosexual. Why?
Published on April 3, 2010 by Leonard Sax, M.D., Ph.D. in Sax on Sex
(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sax-sex/201004/why-are-so-many-girls-lesbian-or-bisexual)
